When we lived back up north, near all our friends and family, before the boys were in school, we had their birthday parties and invited our friends if they had kids or not. The parties were just as much a chance for the adults to get together and socialize as it was for the kids to get together and play. Now that the boys are in school, we invite their classmates to their parties and thankfully some of the classmate’s parents are our friends. Some of our friends with kids are still on the list too so it makes for a great group of kids when everyone gets together.
Because we’re still kind of “new” (it will be five years this month!!), I’m back at the crossroads of inviting our adult friends (some with kiddos and some without) or just kiddos that are friends with her big brothers. Right now, I’ve got a mix of friends without kids and friends with kiddos. The current guest count (adults and kids) is 193.
Pick your jaw up.
Because I’m about to make it drop again….
That’s probably not the end of the list.
I feel terrible for not inviting people and hurting someone’s feelings so I invite them even if we’re not close friends. Disclosure: there’s a good chance a number of those people won’t come because they don’t live near us anymore and because her party is Easter weekend.
My other problem is that I work with 100 guys. I rarely get to meet their wives and when I do it’s briefly and usually because they have some kind of problem or question associated with work. Something about inviting guys to a baby’s first birthday party just doesn’t sound like it will be fun for them. Or their wives that don’t know me….
Social situations like this always make me stress way more than I probably need to. The “right” thing always seems to escape me and never seems to be as clear cut to me as other people. I want nothing more than my little princess and our family to be surrounded by those who love and support us celebrating her amazing first year of life. I guess if that means the guest list is 193 people then so be it! To me, you can always politely decline. Offending someone by not inviting them seems much worse to me than inviting someone that doesn’t really want to come.
How do you handle your parties – over or under invite? Do you invite the adults you know you’ll have fun with or the kiddo’s friends or a mix of both?