When you’re pregnant you tend to get a lot of attention. You’ve got the visible belly (most of the time – I didn’t really with my second pregnancy), if you’re lucky you’ll have a shower thrown for you and your bundle of joy, all those doctor’s appointments and lots of inquisitive people asking when you’re due. While it’s nice most of the time, it can get overwhelming. It also may make your significant other feel a little bit neglected. So how can you keep your hubby or significant other involved during the pregnancy? Here are a couple of ideas:
Bring ‘em to the appointments. Most guys don’t really envision themselves at every appointment and honestly how much fun is sitting in the waiting room for half an hour for a five minute appointment? If you know something big is coming up (an ultrasound for example), make sure hubby knows about it. If it’s important to you that he’s there, make sure he knows that. Before you invite your mom, sister, best friend and everyone else, see if he’s ok with that or if he thought it would be more a “just the two of you” thing.
Get his input. Again, since men don’t really have to deal with the whole pregnancy things, they’re happy for you to just figure out what you and baby need and go from there. Take him along to register with you (he’ll love scanning things at the store!), ask for name ideas, give him some nursery choices, things like that.
Be upfront. If there are things you’ve got your heart set on, let him know right away so you two can discuss it if you don’t share the same feelings or views. If there’s something you want or need him to do, tell him. I’ve found that my hubby’s usually happy to help with something if I’m specific about what I want or need done.
Plan ahead for him. While you’re packing things for you and the baby in the hospital bag, throw in a few things for hubby too like snacks or a magazine. He’ll appreciate it I’m sure and probably wouldn’t think to bring some of those things for himself.
Get him a photo album. When he goes back to work, people are going to ask to see pictures. Either be sure to take some on his phone or print some off and put them in a small album for him to have with him. The girls at the office will ooh and aah over your little bundle of joy and it will give him a chance to show off and be a proud daddy.
Encourage him. Chances are, if this is his first baby, he’s probably pretty terrified about what lies ahead with both childbirth and having a newborn to care for. When he’s doing something right, be sure he knows it (and hopefully continues!). Send him some videos on giving baby a sponge bath or an article you found on how important the bond between daddy and baby is. Everyone’s got things to learn when they bring a new baby into the world no matter how many you have at home.
How did you keep your hubby or significant other involved during the pregnancy?